Ram: Its me: Personal Spaces

I have always believed firmly in not invading "Personal Spaces" of any humanbeing. This includes my wife, my best friend and my best companion. "Personal Spaces" are driven by the heart and mind of an individual and is the freedom of right in this world. Men & Women are equal, furthering the statement, I shall say that a man & his wife are no more than 2 friends, each sharing the love and affection of the other. The only difference between a wife and a friend according to me is the relationships of lust. In western parlance, including hugging and kissing becomes an act of fellowship and the love you share with a humanbeing. Our traditon may defy it, for all the good, but the westernized culture maybe calls for more intimacy. More to a fact, that when such intervention is not there, a humanbeing gels better, fares well and actually appreciates the way of living. According to the Hindu Customs and in a majority, the girl enters the boy's home after wedding and is expected to live severally among others and change accordingly. Here, the principle of freedom is in perils. They say, never try and fight with nature, or change the course of the wind. It is against the tide. Hence allowing a person to lead his/her own life without compromising is about the meaningful act of life and re-creating a personal space, where his/her world is as per his/her wish.
Personal Space could mean his/her own preferences. It could mean the kind of things I use to be comfortable, A thought which I entertain and the be with the people I am close with. Most often, Marraiges change the persons life. Being you and retaining yourself is somthing that is very important and when one does it, it remains a symbol of healthier relationships and values.

I am being ...Myself to the world.

Sorry to the world, I am a little different

A Confused Soul was born on Christmas,
The Nurses Overwhelming Passion, My Mothers Pride & Joy:
Not for many years,
A Child Prodigy not:
But a Thinker of different Sorts, Yes!
At 18, I thought I was indifferent to many,
but a few years later, people became indifferent to me

A Lover of Sport,
In the game of romance always,
A reader of all kinds,
A mind reader to a few
An astrologer within,
Often a rare specimen of annoyance
Inquisitive, Extrovert & a Nuisance to a close few
deadly silent, boring and a bastard to few others
Ambitious, Risk Loving & Daring to many:
Writer, I call myself, to a laughing pedigree of sorts,
A Gene with a natural flair to critisize. I ask God why?
Maybe Perfectness in me too high, only me to say so!
Lover of tomatoes, strawberries and manythings red,
Subdued eloquence and vanishing fair, I love
Winter showers and Snow drops, I can live with,
Summers & Springs, I never mind,
What I hate is the human arrogance and extravaganze
Mirror, Mirror - Am I right?
The Mirror says - Maybe I am, Maybe not.
Sking, Race Boating, Canoeing & Trekking, in my nerve
steels of resolution to win and flourish, in my vain
Blood of a blend, I know not what?
Spirits I respect,
Nature with awe and wonder,
Lover of poetry,
so with the beauty of the world.
Gardening & Home Designing in my most passionate interests
I doubt this is all in me,
I'm sure, there's more to me,
get exploring a little of me.

The Gita & Life

Whatever has happened, has happened for good.
Whatever is happening, is happening for good.
Whatever is going to happen, it will be for good.
What have you lost for which you cry?
What did you bring with you, which you have lost?
What did you produce, which has destroyed?
You did not bring anything when you were born.
Whatever you have, you have received from Him.
Whatever you will give, you will give to Him.
You came empty handed and you will go the same way. Whatever is yours today was somebody else's yesterday
and will be somebody else's tomorrow.
SO WHY WORRY UNNECESSARILY?

Recreate Happiness!

The key to discovering what we need to learn is the faith that everything that happens to us is a result of processes called mirroring, sympathetic attunement, resonance or projection. Our beliefs, emotions, expectations, fears and behaviors are mirroring, reflecting, projecting or resonating in our external world attracting the behaviors and events which we experience. Those events, behaviors or situations that cause us to feel unpleasant feelings are specifically mirroring parts of ourselves which are ripe and ready to be transformed. This is a very powerful tool for self-discovery because it gives us a very clear understanding of what we need to change while simultaneously freeing us from negative feelings towards the others. We realize that we ourselves attract the behaviors and events that create our reality. It is through exactly those stimuli that we will be motivated to evolve out of our old limiting beliefs into new beliefs, more aligned with the truths of our real spiritual nature. Some readers might not be able to accept these basic tenants. This life-philosophy is based on the following basic tenants 1. We are immortal, inherently divine beings in a process of evolution. 2. We are totally responsible for the reality we experience. 3. We evolve and mature emotionally and spiritually through a learning process stimulated and sometimes forced upon us by life's events and circumstances, and to a great degree, others' behaviors. 4. Unpleasant events and circumstances are always opportunities for growth. We also learn from pleasant events and circumstances. 5. There are four factors within us, which attract these life stimuli and create our subjective reality:a. Our past actions and behaviors.b. Our present beliefs, emotions, expectations, behaviors, fears, guilt, attachments, internal conflicts and roles we play.c. The specific lessons we have come to learn as souls in evolution.d. How we interpret events and behaviors. 6. There are four areas of our lives through which we receive most of our lessons:a. Our close relationshipsb. Our health and physical appearance.c. Our work environment.d. Various events such as accidents, marriage, divorce, loss, gain, war, natural disasters and changes in general. 7. Most often our lessons are to be found in events, circumstances or behaviors which bother us, which are not to our satisfaction, or are painful to us. 8. The lessons we need to learn in these areas can be varied and multiple but fall the following general categories:a. To transform our conscious and subconscious beliefs.g. To change our attitudes and behavior.c. To communicate more clearly, assertively and effectively.d. To change our way of life.e. To make efforts to improve the world around us. 9. In general, our lessons involve transforming beliefs and fall into categories:a. Beliefs which we need to change in order to cease attracting or creating a situation, which bothers us.b. Beliefs which we need to transform in order to be able to accept the situation exactly as it is.c. Beliefs which we need to change in order to communicate more effectively with others concerning what is happening.d. Beliefs which we need to transform in order to be able to actively improve or change the external situation. Some examples below will help us understand this. Some Examples of Possible Lessons: a. If, as a soul, I need to learn to gain self-confidence, it would be only natural to create a situation in which my personality could not find external support, thus forcing me to learn to depend upon myself. b. If I need to learn self-acceptance, then it would be natural for me, as a soul, to create a situation in which I pass through a period of not being accepted by the others, so as to develop an inner base for my self-acceptance. c. If I have chosen to overcome a fear, then the obvious way to do this would be to subconsciously create or attract exactly what I fear, so that I may overcome it. d. If I need to overcome an aspect of my character such as selfishness, what better way to see my selfishness, than to confront it in others. Mirroring and ProjectingThere is a small difference between mirroring and projecting. When another's behavior "mirrors" something inside us, that means that there is a resonance and that the other is behaving in a way which reflects some of our beliefs, emotions or expectations. There is a silent resonance between us, which causes the other to mirror the some of our aspects. "Projection" means that we are seeing things in the other's behavior, which are not there, at least not to the extent that we see them. We are subjectively interpreting and often magnifying aspects of the other's behavior so that we "project" on to his or her behavior our own beliefs, needs, fears, emotions and expectations, and guilt

Ram: Its me

Personal Spaces

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